Disconnect to connect

Balconies in Monaco – Trip to Europe Aug. ’14
Haven’t you ever felt the need to get away from all these technological devices that surround us in our everyday lives? I know I have. Internet users have an average of 5 social media accounts. It’s pretty crazy considering that ten years ago people were content using emails and MySpace on a PC. Now it’s become a must-have and the access has never been easier– our smartphones. But if you think about it, is it really necessary?

I’ve been having thoughts lately about the way I use my social networks. Last semester, in the class of Communication Practices, we saw a topic about the “kidnapping of the experience“. The author, Anthony Giddens, discussed how in today’s society everything has become superficial and that the immediate access to information affects our daily activities. For example, on many occasions, I’ve seen people more concerned about taking the perfect selfie or picture of their dinner plate, than actually enjoying the moment. Afterwards they’re hardly interacting, their eyes glued to the screen of their phones. If they don’t share it, they’re not living it.

That’s what the author refers to, your experience figuratively gets kidnapped by social media. I know it sounds odd, but is it not true? After reading about this topic, I decided that I didn’t want to be like these people. If I’m traveling somewhere new, I want to get to know the place –not show it off on Instagram. That doesn’t mean that I won’t take pictures or that I won’t post it. It just means that I’ll enjoy the moment first before sharing it with everyone else.

Less posting, more living. 

Two weeks

It’s been two weeks since he’s gone. The first few days were tough. It’s weird waking up in the morning and not seeing him sleeping in the hallway outside my door. Coming home to an empty place every evening is something I’m slowly getting used to. I know most people say “it’s just a pet”, but he was way more than that. 10 years of loving memories. Being an only child, he was like my little brother. Given that he was a Shih Tzu, I’d thought that he’d live longer, the breed lives an average of 12 to 14 years. Unfortunately I was wrong, every doggo’s has a different lifespan.

Kuky (pronounced cookie) was seriously the best companion I could have asked for. I’m not sure if it’s just me or if other people also have a hard time coping with the loss of their pets. What’s certain is that time heals everything.

I’ll never forget you buddy ❤

Why be afraid?

I always take random pictures of sunsets – March ’15

So I came across an article that talked about this girl who was challenging herself 100 Days Without Fear. I totally relate with her. I’m one of those people who dread change, I panic as soon as I notice I’m getting out of my comfort zone. I think it’s very brave of her to do this challenge. Some things she does may seem normal and nothing out of the extraordinary for others, but even if a fear is small, overcoming it is a big step.

Now, what is fear exactly? To begin with, fear is an emotion. To be more precise, an emotion is an affective response composed of physiological and cognitive factors, caused by situations that are of relevance to that person and it is expressed through the body and conduct. Among the primary emotions, we have: happiness, disgust, sadness, anger, fear and surprise. They’re primary because they have helped human race survive and not go extinct. How is fear any helpful? It makes you alert, ready to run for your life and save yourself from a predator. Now, that scenario would’ve been common millions of years ago. But now, we live in civilizations, and the causes of our fears have changed dramatically. In ancient times it was large animals or enemy tribes. Now, it’s more about trying out new things, leaving behind the routine, the opinion others may have about you or your smart phone running out of battery and staying disconnected for a while. If you think about it, of course we humans, need to be able to feel fear. However, there are many situations in our everyday lives were it’s unnecessary. In the end, the biggest barrier between you and your dreams, is you. It’s important to remind ourselves that not every issue we encounter is a real threat (because our body responds as if it were real, which can lead to health problems in the long run).
This week I have overcome two fears. The first one was leaving my old blog behind and starting this one, just to express my thoughts. The second one was dying my hair ombre, I’m a brunette and my tips are now really blonde, it’s the first time I ever change my hair color noticeably. So you might think my fears are lame. But even is they are a bit absurd, getting past is the best feeling ever and that motivates you to continue bringing down those barriers. Of course, when I talk about fear I don’t refer to phobias, that’s a whole different subject, but it’s still not impossible either.
P.S. I’m a psychology major and this is the first time I ever make a post on a topic related to it. I can now check that off my bucket list.

Let’s start with a reflection

Literally. The image above is a reflection of my patio. Today Lima woke up to a gray and rainy morning. The beginning of winter perhaps? So the reason why I have started this blog is a bit confusing to explain. Before, I had a blog on Blogger that started back in 2012. At first I’d just share random things and I didn’t post often. After some time, I started focusing more on the whole “lifestyle” topic. I haven’t deleted it yet, I’m surely not planning to.

But let’s be honest, there’s thousands (maybe it’s a hyperbole) of bloggers out there, into fashion and beauty and share their favorite products, outfits, routines, etc. They all want to be noticed, read and heard. But how to achieve such notoriety? A better question would be: why do people crave notoriety? At first I was doing it just for fun, but when I wanted others to actually read my blog, it became too exhausting. It requires time, constant updates, and not just any type of update, the content has to be appealing and your pictures have to look like they came from Tumblr or Pinterest. That’s when I asked myself, why did I start blogging? To gain readers, followers and compliments? No. Just to express myself, the kind of thoughts you don’t usually tell others but just keep for yourself. Write them (type them actually) and let them have their own little hiding place in the virtual world. It’s interesting reading about others, but it’s a challenge writing about yourself and making others want to read it. This blog will have a slightly different focus. I won’t be here sharing things to make my life look interesting. I’ll just write about things that matter to me, or I might even not write at all and just share pictures. Did I mention my passion for photography? This will be my attempt at getting back at it.