Daring Greatly by Brené Brown is a book that discusses connection and vulnerability — and how by allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you’re actually being courageous. Yes, it might sound contradicting and even a bit like nonsense, that’s why you need to read this book. First off, Brown defines vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure”.
Vulnerability is closely related to shame. Though it’s not one of the six basic human emotions, shame is a universal feeling that all of us have experienced at one point or another. The thing about shame is that people don’t talk about it because it’s uncomfortable, and by simply addressing it makes us feel defenseless. But the key to overcome it is communication. Shame has infiltrated cultures and communities in numerous ways. Many wrong things that happen nowadays at companies and schools have their source in shame.
The main takeaway that I’ll start putting into practice immediately is regarding how we talk to ourselves. Changing that judgemental internal voice makes a huge difference. It’s not the same telling yourself “I’m a failure” vs. “I made a mistake on this occasion”. This is something we learn as kids from the environment we grew up in, but it’s never too late to unlearn and shift the way we see things. We are worthy, we are enough.
All of the information the author shares is based on research. There are plenty of examples from the interviews she’s held with participants, other researchers, and experiences of her own. It was a bit redundant at times, but the writing style was fluid and easy-going; it felt like chatting with a friend.
There is even a small workbook at the end, where all sorts of questions are included to help and guide the reader through a process of introspection.
If you’re still not sure whether this book is for you, I recommend you check out Brené Brown’s TED Talk.